Aesthetics vs Character

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To make beauty the fulcrum upon which you make your decision in choosing a life partner is absurd and a demonstration of negligence and ignorance. 

While it is a blessing (God's common grace) to find people attractive, we should not be found using that as the meter for judging people as to whether they are fit or not to take a stand side by side with us in our journey through life.

Beauty is like water. Trying to lay hold of it is a futile task because in little or no time you are definitely going to loose it. Either by virture of the poor contenance of the digits of your hand or by viture of evaporation. 


No wonder in the description of the virteous women in Proverb 31, there's no allusion to beauty in her praise. But rather a counter in the 30th verse of that same chapter.


Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised.

Proverbs 31:30 LSB

https://bible.com/bible/3345/pro.31.30.LSB




Thereby signifying the preeminence of character over aesthetics or charm. For all that will fade away and fly into thin air. But a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised.

More also, in our reading of the book of Ruth, we can understand clearly that Boaz didn't marry Ruth on the basics of her beauty. He instead married her for her perseverance and God honouring attitude.


No matter how selective you are in choosing a spouse_based on beauty, be rest assured that even if she was or is crowned the most beautiful woman in the world. She is going to be unseated atleast in two years time. By the way, am sure you must have heard the saying, the beautiful one's are not yet born. Will you want to wait till they are born? Don't take me seriously, am only kidding.


Some of us have passed up the opportunity to institute God ordained relationship with God fearing individuals because we were resting on the excuse of not wanting our concentration outside the home when we finally settle down. Reason being because we will like our spouse to satisfy all our fantasy of what beauty or charm is_in our heads.

But there's something we often neglect, how about old age? When it strikes, will my concentration still be in the home, or will I become a sugar daddy like most of our shameless so called fathers who loath pubs and brothels in other to satisfy their insatiable lust?


God indeed is good and those who follow his precepts never fail. Men who appreciate thier significant other beyond their aesthetics/beauty are blessed. For just like the husband of the virteous woman, they are proud. In that there name is known in the gates. A further dive into this passage of scripture [Proverb 31] will show why people can't help but recognise the husband of this gracious woman. 


Beyond being proud of her, he finds her attractive and ever beautiful even with her grays, thanks to the natural phenomenon called neural plasticity. It is this same phenomenon that allows us to find some food enjoyable even after blacklisting them as children. This same phenomenon is what allows us to stick to our partners even after years of wrinkling and loosing of our abs [for the men].

However, this same concept is why porn addict tend to seek for new adventures so much so that they end up with bizzare preferences like bdsm.

But that's just to show how berserk things can go if our focus is perturbed.


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