Objectification of women [Fair or unfair?]

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Introduction 

Before we dig right in, permit me to state squarely that this phenomenon applies very much to men as it applies to women. However, it seems all too obvious that the female gender is much more on the receiving end, when this topic is brought to light.
From the Transgender movement to the epidemic of porn. It has become all too obvious that our orientation about the opposite sex is perturbed. It seems as though the trophy for our interaction with them is sex. So therefore, our fantasies become shaped around that goal. Not just our fantasies but also, our actions.
Matt Walsh of the Dailly wire released a book and a video documentary asking people in different regions of the world to explain or define "what a woman is". Most gave up their capacity to define what a woman is cause they believe it is the duress of those who identify as women to define what "a woman" is and not theirs. When the same question was thrown at women [both biological women and Transgender women] they also could not define it.
This whole phenomenon can be likened to a man who leaves his doors open in the middle of the night while leaving in a crime infested region.
If in this day and age of unmatched technological advancment we can't define a woman, how then can we teach our women to act as one?



How it all started

After a night out with the boys. We were sitted and enjoying the serenity that succeeds a break period, triggered by the  presidential election that was to hold in a week time. It was morning and contrary to what you would expect when boys of our age gather- thanks to the dwindling mores of our day. We were not discussing the endowment of the opposite sex. But instead,  we were percussing the unfortunate phenomenon that has befallen them. And that was "the objectification of women".

To this my best friend played the devil's advocate. By alluding to the fact that men are attracted by a woman's contour and fine body figure. All of which is a consequence of our primitive responses_"Natural Selection". Natural selection entails the selection of a mate who promises fertility. The ability to reproduce is hugely dependent on estrogen, which in itself is a product of fat. I think now you know why there's an obsession over curvy and thick [obese] women. 



To This I Responded...

Common man, for how long will we continue to depend on our primitive instincts, and to be fair this is somewhat of a murder of the woman. Cause such an act whether passive or active, derides a woman of her personality.
It relegates her to nothing more than a toy. Because for a man, his conscious mind does not think reproduction,  as in continuation of specie but rather, he is concerned with his sexual gratification. 

Sexual gratification in the context of marriage is not a bad thing at all. And it can even stand on its own when a couple decide to enjoy the  consummation of their intimate relationship. But to make your relationship only about sexual gratification is chaotic and despicable.



The Purpose of Sex

The word purpose is in this case inappropriate, it's like substituting "C minor" for "C major" on a musical keyboard. Because they are absolutely two different notes that should not take the place of one another. Because that is going to affect the symphony of any mucical orchestra. A more appropriate term is the word "consequence". Cause it fits the scenery perfectly.
So what am I proposing? Sex should follow naturally when both partners have complimented each other appropriately in their spiritual, emotional and physical needs.



The Place of Aesthetics

While aesthetics is undoubtedly essential, we should not be too invested in it.


As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout So is a beautiful woman who turns away from discretion.
Proverbs 11:22 LSB
https://bible.com/bible/3345/pro.11.22.LSB



It is more important to focus on a woman's personality_the whole composite of her being. 


Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on garments; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible quality of a lowly and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
1 Peter 3:3‭-‬4 LSB
https://bible.com/bible/3345/1pe.3.3-4.LSB




By the way, no one works for their genetically determined aesthetics. It is a product of chance_nature and nurture. So therefore it is unfair to use that as the yardstick for choosing a mate. In as much as the definition of beauty is subjective. And it can to a large extent be shaped by our social and cultural experiences.



Denouement

I don't think this mayhem (the objectivication of women) should see the light of the day, more or less the gates of a customary Court [lowest court in Nigeria]. But for the continous exercise of freedom of speech, why not? It's no news that women like to been seen as beautiful, but again this does not give us the right to reduce them to nothing more than objects for satisfying our sexual fantasies.

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